Hi,
I thought this would be the best place to field a question like this. It’s a basic one, “What would you do if you were me?”.
This is a risky post for me to make emotionally, but I sort of view it like putting my full account on the line. I thought I would reach out to the community, share my position, and see what comes back as I haven’t got anything to lose emotionally or in regard to pride/face. The Apex community is a big part of what makes trading here so great. The guys working behind the scenes are incredible and do all they can, but us out here are a huge resource and benefit as well. So rather than being all private and sheepish and a burden about I thought I’d see what you all might have to say
About me:
I’ve been with Apex / Nadex since Feb 2013. In that time I have been eager to grow as a trader, and left my rather well paying sales job in Aug 2013 and have been working at this full time since. I’m open to criticism, always looking to learn, relatively well balanced emotionally, sometimes have a short attention span, collaborative, creative, determined. No solid background in trading other than this, sales, engineering/building, and adventure travel background in my career. 34 years old, well traveled, no family money. I’ve been “all in†with the Apex line of thinking and community/nadex, spent my savings and run up my credit trying to make ends meet while doing this as I am not making money, and am now at the end of my rope. I relate to this as my business, and now I am in a very tight spot.
A large critique I would give myself is that my focus seems to pinpoint certain elements or details that might not be the most effective at that moment, while at the same time I bounce around a lot. There is an animalistic reaction in me that forces me to look for another strategy or technique if I loose on the day. Many of the rules are very straightforward, especially momentum scalp and boomerang, however I find myself selecting incorrect binaries regularly, or not trusting my analysis of the system enough to pull that trigger and then the opportunity slips past. Because of this, I have badgered the team way more than is civil and they have been very patient with me in my questions for automated this or that as I want that extra confirmation of an unemotional program has verified XYZ so that I can then apply the 123 of style and “focus on the big pictureâ€. I realize my spending so much time wanting this is a distraction.They have already given us the tools we need to absolutely kill it. I know this because I see it in the charts, I still fully believe in the systems, I just get something crossed between seeing it an executing it.
I believe in demo, however I need to make money daily for the next week. I realize that needing my trades to work is a tremendous distraction some would call a recipe for disaster, but that is where I am. I have a $300 account with Nadex only and can not put anymore money into it. I have put a total of $4500 into my account with Nadex. Rather than making large foolish trades, I would definitely classify myself as conservative/cautious to a fault, and have bought myself a sort of death of a thousand cuts type scenario. I placed 3 winning trades today which felt great, but then lost it all and more in the later part of the day, common. I do not remember the last net positive day I have had.
DM mentioned it in the webinar today, that people reach out to him that have a perspective where they “must” make money now. That is an unfortunate position to be in. At this point I view my position as either winning or not, it is what it is. I’ll need to leverage most of my account, and aspire to properly utilize the 5% rule, but not this week. I view the next week as a fork in the road. The “problem†though is that during this week I must make a relatively large amount of money compared to my account to go the direction I want to go.
I am leaving on a trip 7/18, that is my deadline, and I’m willing to stay up the entire time to make it happen (though I know how silly that is, lol) Out of 7000 some odd people, I realize there must be someone else in a sort of similar spot.
A more seasoned trader will probably be able to pinpoint my position exactly. I’m able to look at my mistakes and relate them to behaviors in other areas where I have more skills and think, “Wow, I must really look like an emotional, squirrly amatureâ€. That in a dark sort of way is funny to me. Where I am a professional is my continued desire to improve, my belief in the tools is reinforced through the community so I know I am on the right track, and I’m very willing to change my behaviors to find success.
I realize feedback I might hear would be to A) stop trading B) get another job and let the 5% rule work for me over time C) demo until xyz D) be less emotional E) make shorter forum posts
However I want to rocket in a winning direction here and I know I can do it. I’ve read other’s stories of doing it. I see all of these great tools all around me, I am just sort of at a loss with how to execute using them I suppose. I see myself here for years to come, I just can’t really see how the next week or so will turn out.
As always, any feedback would be very much appreciated.
Rob